I’m out of the swing lifestyle now. Have been out for a decade. Glad I experienced it but one on one with someone you are totally enamored with is the best .
On one insane occasion we were going to play with another couple so 2 guys and 2 ladies. My girl called up a friend who we both had played with before and the other couple brought another woman with them who wanted to join in. No sooner than they all arrived another lady joined us who had originally declined but changed her mind . So.. 2 guys and 5 women. Then the other guy dropped out and watched a football game in the other room because he was having troubles getting it up. He was diabetic, also recovering from prostate cancer so not that he was grossly out of shape or anything , just a bad situation for him. Left me with 5 ladies on a King size bed. Way too much workload. They all played with one another to varying degrees but then it fell to me to give them the 10 inches I was lucky enough to have between my legs . Played with condoms of course which made it more difficult and less enjoyable so really , while it was partying like a rock star and I can proudly say it’s off my bucket list . Came 4 times that night. Once each with 3 of the ladies by oral and hand jobs and once in my girl friends pussy while she was having her boobs sucked on by one , while kissing another and another girl making out with me. Sounds better than it actually was. Lots of awkward bumping , hard to get a good position. Kind of like playing twister where everyone needs to figure out where to kneel, lay , careful not to hurt anyone .
Over the course of the 5 years we were together I would say I had almost 100 threesomes. I am good in bed and am well endowed but honestly pleasuring 2 women is quite a bit of work . i never liked giving oral, I just don’t like the taste. Ladies would sometimes call me out on it . Now if pussy tasted like chocolate, what a thought , what’s great thing that would be. Women would be happier. If cumm tasted like chocolate too , that would be a wonderful world. I suppose if I was an inconsiderate lover it would have been better. And could have just satisfied my urges and stopped. After the novelty wore off I preferred to play one on one. It was fun to watch her play with a fully bi lady , no pressure for me to pleasure them and just a visual treat for me.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
She brought home her own lawyer and out of all of the threesomes that was hands down the best. Both were truly bi, more lesbian than straight. They kissed, licked , sucked and prodded one another everywhere . I joined in after over an hour and made love to both of them. I always wore condoms when we swung reserving bare back for only my girlfriend. This time at their insistence . I played bare back with both. Making love is different than just having sex. It’s more gentle , relaxed, tender. Lots of kissing and mutual touching . The grande finale for the guy is releasing in the pussy after a long session of foreplay and then just laying back and drifting off to sleep together . Back then I could reload in about 15 minutes, so gave them both a load in the pussy before collapsing . I was in the middle and each lady put their head on my chest and cuddled in and we all drifted off to sleep together . It felt awesome and to wake up the next morning that way was such a feeling . I made love to each of them individually the next morning . If that’s what all threesomes were like I would change the answer but that’s the exception to the rule. 1 time out of a hundred . That was the one threesome which got repeated several times. We all liked it.
Most guys always aspire to have a threesome as did I . I was in the swing community for a few years when I was in a relationship with a cute , petite bi- blonde. Kind of looked like a young Ellen Degeneres. Short blonde hair, sassy. Not everyone’s cup of tea but I love the look. Now there are different shades of bi women from my observations . There are the ladies who will make out with another lady but not much more. Most the ladies who I encountered who proffered to being bi were bi from the waist up. Some were just doing it to make their guy happy. My lady was always bringing other ladies home , sometimes they would let me join, sometimes just watch and sometimes just say sorry and close the bedroom door and play one on one.
